LOS ANGELES – The snapshots tell the story of a big man with a big, beaming grin.The McIlvain family passes around the pictures, laughing over their son Charlie's antics captured through the years: Charlie as a youngster camping with a backpack bigger than him, Charlie cheesing for the camera on Christmas with bows stuck to his newly balding head, Charlie in a kilt on his wedding day with lovestruck eyes.There aren't any new photographs to share, only old memories that bring up pain and grief and unspeakable tragedy barely a year old.Charles McIlvain died on Sept.